We all experience heartbreak at some point. But while it is an unavoidable truth that some relationships end painfully, we can come to better process the extreme emotions associated with breakups—and we can even use heartbreak as an opportunity to uncover new insights into ourselves and our needs. Combining psychoanalytic theory with practical advice and reflection questions, this guide—written by a therapist—will help you learn from your breakups by delving deep into the childhood origins of your interpersonal dynamics, reflecting on your past relationships, and identifying your current needs and desires. A richer understanding of yourself and your breakups will empower you to identify patterns, heal your wounds, form healthier attachments, and live a happier life.